click189748 said:
wat should i do about my abusive boy friend

I answered:

I strongly feel you should dump him.
Here’s why.
Most of my friends are older, because a lot of people my age aren’t on my maturity level, I have low tolerance for high school drama.
Anyways, one of my friends - her first marriage, only lasted a year because he was abusive and no one knew about it till she was in the emergency room.
She died 7 times, had to get revived - he threw her on the floor - she busted her head, during surgery she kept going out, she STILL loved him and didn’t wanna leave him, till I talked some since into her. She went back home and stayed with her mom.
So just by being pushed down, it can cause some serious damage.
I don’t think anyone deserves abuse the slightest bit.
Physically, or emotionally.
If he really loved you, he wouldn’t be hitting you.
You WILL find better, someone you may not love as much back, but everyone deserves to be treated right and with respect, until they give you a reason to loose that respect.
So, even when your 80 something, you can still find a lover.
Leave him hun.
You might think its hard, but believe me, when my friend got away, a few weeks later she was a COMPLETELY different person - much more stronger.
Keep your head up high, make sure he knows you’ve had enough, get a restraining order against him, and leave him. FOR GOOD.
Show him his loss. 

Yes. I have.
I use to cry myself to sleep.
Hold yourself up high, hang with a new crowd.
Go up to random people and just start a conversation, anything.
Get surrounded., I mean there’s not much you can do if you don’t give it a shot. 

Well.
There’s no way to know for sure.
Sit down and have a talk?
Even though it’ll probably be lies, it’ll be worth a shot.
Suprise him  at work or whatever - school - a time where he’s not expecting you.
Go through text messages, facebook or whatever if you must.
There’s not much you can do. 

Well.. You can call DHS - Department of Human Services, but I wouldn’t reccomend it - it takes a while to go through paperwork and you need proof and even when you get in there its gonna be hell.
If your a girl, I would HIGHLY recommend not to run away - you’ll have a high chance of getting raped, and do NOT stay at friends houses.
You could get whoever even had knowledge of where you were at (if you were reported missing by a parent/gardien) arrested.
I think when you hit 16, emmancipation is a best bet - Only thing is you have to prove to the judge you can support yourself.
You have to know how to drive and cook and be able to support yourself financially.
It’ll take about a year for the paperwork and all that shit to get through, you could wait till you 18, but a year getting taken off is better then nothing.
In the mean time if she’s drinking - try and get her into rehab and dump all her drinks out when she’s not looking.
If she’s just plain abusive, try to not talk to her the least as possible - no back talk unless you really have the need to stand up for what you believe in - that’s fine.
Just try your best to aviod her worse side.
Believe me, mines the same way sometimes.
That’s all I have for advice /= 

Maybe he has a reason for ignoring you, I don’t know, that’s for you to find out.
Plus when you do get there, its also up to you whether you think if you should be with him still or not, I mean there’s not much I can help you with. xD

I’m 140? I’m starting a low carb, high protein&fiber diet tomorrow. I’m sure if your 114, you are in good shape - just depends on your height and age.
If you hate the way you look, start working out - I mean look in my “Already Answered” link. I have helpful eating tips and how to help you get out of depression like this.
Plus, you shouldn’t be throwing up after you eat o___o I would say Anerexia, but I think thats kindof out there haha.
Start taking daily vitamin pills, you’ll probably feel a lot better - Actually, a lot of people don’t think vits are important, they have a lot to do with actual daily life and moods - all research shows this.
I mean if you really wanna have confidence in yourself you have to work for it if your not already pleased. xD Sorry, I can’t wave a magic wand or snap my fingers and make you a super model, bahaha.
Hah. Sorry I wasn’t much help. 

Agh, I think this is a case of the “Secret life of the American Teenager.”
Hahaha, well. Your current girlfriend is going to find out sooner or later, so might as well tell her.
When you do, if she understands, I think she’d be good for you.
If not, then she wasn’t worth your time, or maybe she needs time to let it sink in.
So far as the other female you got pregnant?
Apologize to that girl for not being there for her, and honestly, I’m going to tell you this as if you were my best friend, I don’t give a flying fuck if you do or don’t wanna be in this child’s life, its the right thing to do.
You would cause this child pain in not having a father all his/her life, and frankly the mother shouldn’t go through it alone.
Sure the mother might have friends but that’s not enough. She needs YOU unless the flat out tells you otherwise and no, you don’t have to be with her, but be there for the child.
If you don’t take my advice and follow through with this, really? There’s nothing I can help you with. 

Hmph.. well I’ve been in this situation before.. I gave him a second shot without even breaking up with him and he fucked it up bad.
If he’s serious about you and swears he won’t do it again then I don’t know. Forgive him I guess and just keep a closer eye on him.
If you don’t think he’s serious and your gut also tells you that, follow your instincts.
Yeah you’d probably be upset like I was, but you’ll get over it.
Ways out of depression: Lots of people enjoy doing stuff such as singing/writing/creating/recording/listening/etc. to music, photography, just whatever you like to do.
Everytime you think about crying or doing something stupid, occupy yourself with this.
Surround yourself with people that make you laugh and get your mind off of things and you’ll dig yourself out eventually. 

Hmph. Well.
There’s not much you can do.
Ask him how he feels and confront him.
He denys it, then move on.
If he doesn’t deny it, well thats up to you if you wanna go out with him or not or whatever. xD
Not much you can do. 

I don’t hate anyone?
I might dislike someone, but that’s till they give me a reason too.
x3 

First off, relationships won’t work without trust. Period.
If he trusted you, why would he give you rules?
I’d say leave him, but that’s completely up to you.
He shouldn’t make you be feeling like shit, so why waste your time BEING with him?
On top of that, he doesn’t  trust you, and I think he cares about you, its just that he doesn’t trust you and doesn’t wanna get hurt. So he makes up rules, and he doesn’t use it himself.
Plus, if you’ve already given him everything, nothing should matter.
Plus with rules, relationships don’t work, cause someones gonna wind up breaking a rule bad, and someones gonna walk out and leave.
So if you want this to work out with this guy, sit down and have a talk with him in person. 
Tell him to either trust you and get rid of the rules, or get lost.
I mean, theres not much you could do in a situation like this.
I think thats the only thing you can do. 

Haha, its alright. I’m a teen and I don’t even understand myself sometimes.
Anyways, It depends if you know your child knows right from wrong.
Don’t get all up in their business, unless your concerned about something serious.
If your kids been arrested, does drugs, drinks, etc.
Nah, I’d be all up in their business as a parent, regardless if I tried to not be or not xD  I have no advice for troubled kids.
But for a good kid’s teenage standpoint, like myself, nah, Give us some freedom.
Don’t yell/take a tone, just because you can with your kid. If they got in trouble, that, I can understand.
Don’t tell your kid what to do. Ask.
“Can you get the dishes done within the next few minutes? I gotta have the kitchen clean so I can eat lunch.”
As appose to., ”DO IT! Now!”
Cause that just makes you sound like a bitch, xD No offense or anything. Hahaha, that’s always what I have in my head when I get yelled at for no reason or something.
Another thing, don’t threaten your kid with ANYTHING. Weather its to hit, taking something away, smashing/breaking something, or to pull privileges.
Just makes you loose respect and hatred grows stronger. In my point of view anyways. Do it, if your going to do it.
Especially not hitting your kid.
My mom chokes and hits me if I talk back., I’m not saying I suspect you do the same, I’m saying in general and if my mom were to ever talk to me, this is the conversation we’d be having.
Makes me feel hated when she does shit like that, so if you attend to get angry when they talk back, pull privileges. Don’t hit. It really isn’t worth it if you wanna show your kid you care.
I don’t think there is a way to show us you care without us getting annoyed by it, but I think if parents would let up some, after a while, they’ll get comfortable enough to where if they did something wrong, and your kid knows it, they’ll come to you confessing.
When they do confess, don’t get mad. Try to relate to the situation and make them feel like their not stupid.
I really wish parents would more often admit their mistakes instead of being a bitch to your kid when they do it.
Gahd. Anywho, I hoped this helped. 

I already gave you advice on this.
Your choice to follow it or not.
Stop lying for attention, and causing drama.
Its considered some sort of illness as an adult, cumplusive lying is anyways. I forgot the name, but they give you medication, and from some people that I’ve seen, it only made it worse.
Quit while you can.
Yes, it’ll take a while to get people’s trust back.
It’s either loose EVERYTHING and keep lying, and keep digging the whole deeper.
Or try your best to quit, and climb yourself out of the hole slowly. 

Well, you wouldn’t be cutting yourself if you weren’t depressed.
If your cutting yourself and not depressed, I literatly have no advice but to go to the link “Physical help” and click on self harm, I think is the name. See what advice they have for you.
So far as getting out of depression.
I’d get your friends to check up on you, make sure your not doing anything stupid.
Go over their houses, I don’t know. Hang out. Surround yourself with stuff that makes you happy and takes things off your mind.
Drugs, suicide, cutting, drinking, are NOT the answer.
They just make it worse later on in life.
Do things that make you happy.
Most people I know that cut their self enjoy writing anamie, or however you spell it.
I don’t know, find your talent, keep doing it if it makes you happy.
Occupy yourself with this everytime you even THINK about cutting yourself.
Its going to be a hard habbit to get out of, but its NOT the answer.
So. I hoped I helped any.